There’s a gap in our lives. Some may experience it only as a crack, while for others it feels like a grand chasm. This gap lies between what we have and what we want, who we are and who we want to be, the life we are living and the life we want to live.
The gap itself can exist for a variety of reasons. In and of itself it isn’t a bad thing. It’s part of the process of setting goals or identifying desired feelings and working towards acquiring them. It’s life. The rub comes when the gap isn’t closing – or worse – if it feels as though it is widening and all our hopes and dreams are further away. Why does that happen? What keeps us stuck, stagnant or seemingly in reverse?
Shame, blame, anger, jealousy and fear are at the root of a gap that just won’t close. There are several ways you can address these issues and feelings in your life and begin to close the gap. One such way is by embracing vulnerability as Dr. Brene Brown has taught us in her books, The Gifts of Imperfection and Daring Greatly. I encourage you to read those, and consider exploring The Daring Way workshop that E Factor expert, Crystal Jenkins, is certified to teach here at Your Wellness Connection (Click here to register for the January 17, 2015 workshop).
Let me offer another way to start closing that gap between the life you have and the life you want, between what is and what can be. Be grateful. Yes, you guessed it, gratitude – one of my favorite things to write about as you remember from here, here and here. Gratitude helps to dissipate negative feelings about what is or is not in your life. Gratitude nurtures happiness. Gratitude brings you back to the present moment, which gives you perspective on both what can be celebrated and what can be appreciated for the lesson learned. Your new found perspective grounds you in reality which in turn allows you to see all that is and all that is possible. When your life is rooted in gratitude you are poised for action and abundance. Suddenly the gap begins to close, faster than you could have imagined.
What gaps are in your life? What can you be grateful for in your life now? How can all the good that already is in your life help lead you to what the future holds on the other side of the gap?
Originally posted November 26, 2014